Trust everyone at the table, but cut the cards anyway (Robert's Rule #18)

[Tweeted 2011-06-06]

Living in an area where there are multiple casinos within a short drive or a long walk, I've learned to see some things using gaming metaphors. One of these metaphors is trust everyone at the table, but cut the cards anyway (Robert's Rule #18), and if you are an empiricist like Hume, then this rule will automatically make sense.

How does it apply to work? First, if you are not able to trust your colleagues, work (and probably life) will be miserable. Of course the reverse is also true; trusting your colleagues will go a long way in making work not be the worst part of your life. In fact, I've had some jobs I should have hated because they were such a poor fit and yet I didn't because of my colleagues.

Second, not only will the inability to trust your colleagues make life miserable, it will be very difficult to accomplish what you need to accomplish as well. The amount of time you spend countering the machinations of office politics in a hostile environment will outweigh whatever other successes you have. In addition, those times in which you don't succeed your discomfort will be worse because of the negative self-talk that comes out of the lack of trust and your assumptions about yourself.

Of course, this doesn't mean that you should just blindly trust. After all, your trust can be pretty easily misplaced, and this is your livelihood we're talking about here. You can't just go about willy-nilly assuming that everything your colleagues do and say is true, and even a series of lucky guesses ends sometime, which is a very good reason to confirm what you believe to be true.

Of course all of this is to say trust everyone at the table, but cut the cards anyway.